There are valuable rules that can develop a harmonious friendship:
- Be a Good Listener. Problems are part of life and there’s no doubt about that. But, there are times they are unbearable and hard to manage. One of the best ways to lessen the burden in our chest is to unload it by venting. How? We can communicate with our friends and hope that they would listen wholeheartedly. They don’t always have the solutions but they can help by lending their ears.
A cousin of mine once told me that when she talks about her problems and frustrations, her friend would always digress to other topics, which (of course) makes her feel much worse. So, if you want to be a good friend, BE A GOOD LISTENER.
- Avoid an Abusive Behavior. Probably, one of the most important foundations in an ideal friendship is mutual assistance. It doesn’t mean that you should calculate the things that you’ve done for your friend and then compare notes with him/her. A friend in need is a friend indeed. If we can, let’s extend our hands and reach out. Don’t bother to keep in touch when you ONLY need something from your friend. Make her/him feel missed or remembered.
My friend’s best friend has the habit of asking for help. Every now and then, the best friend would call him and seek assistance even in simple matters that can be handled alone (like buying a gift for his girlfriend). When it’s my friend’s turn to ask for help, the best friend is always unbelievably busy.
- Keep Private Matters Secret. One thing that can determine a close relationship between two friends is how they tell each other secrets. If you want to be a good friend, show your friend that you are a trustworthy bearer of his/her secrets by not disclosing any information especially the mortifying ones. The people who will hear that you are badmouthing your friend would pass the information around or would also soon be cautious of you.
There was this real scenario about two friends (Let’s just call them Friend A and Friend B). Friend A told Friend B opinions about a certain group of people although she wasn’t quite sure of her own opinions; after all, they’re just opinions. Friend B hadn’t been close to that group and had been hated, but after telling them what Friend A had stated, it was like magic! To make the story short, she was accepted in that group and they turned their hatred to Friend A, and they believed Friend B‘s lies (she mixed a bit of truth with a bunch of lies). However, other people became cautious of her.
To summarize the whole content, a friendship isn’t always perfect but we can do something to make it an ideal one. Being fair to one another and understanding shall give birth to a stronger relationship.